I just needed to cry. My heart was hurting so I needed to stop everything and just let myself be. I couldn’t pinpoint or articulate the source of my pain, I just knew I needed a release. So that’s what I did today. I went in the bathroom (my sanctuary), curled up in the corner on the floor, wrapped my arms around myself and just cried. I held myself with comfort to let me know it was okay to cry and release. The temptation surfaced to hurry the process along so I could get back to what I was doing; but I realized that nothing was more important than caring for myself in that moment. As I cried, I whispered to myself, “It’s okay. I love you. Just let it out. You’re safe with me.” I created a safe space for myself to just be. I was practicing self-love.
Before today I would have ignored my feelings, tried to resolve what I felt by doing things, or distracted myself with reading social media posts. Today I chose to show myself that I mattered and was worth stopping everything for. I feel lighter, relieved, and at peace. I plan to offer more moments like this to myself.
So why is this important? Jesus said in Mark 12:31 that the second greatest commandment is to “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Well I’ll admit that I need more practice in loving myself. Not out of conceit, idolizing, or vain glory but simply cherishing the treasure God created me as. The more I love on me, the more I increase my capacity to receive and give love to others. By treating myself like I matter, I’m setting the standard for how I want to be treated so that anything less will not be tolerated or accepted. Self-love is a beautiful thing.
How are you practicing self-love?
~Shavon Carter, the YOU Relationship Coach